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The Waiting is the Hardest Part

Here we are at nearly 39 weeks. The nursery is ready. The house is ready. We’ve read books, we’ve mentally prepared, we have bags partially packed, ingredients on hand to make homemade cookies for our labor team once it’s go-time, and I’ve got all my postpartum care supplies ready and waiting. Waiting. That is what we have left to do.

Since starting to practice yoga, I’ve been fairly in tune with my body and aware of any changes. This makes the waiting even more frustrating as I can feel all these subtle changes, but at the same time there is no precise sign that says “hey, this is happening today or tomorrow, or not until next week.” I’m noticing more of a pronounced waddle – which is my hips expanding and opening in preparation for birth, an observation which is corroborated by my fabulous chiropractor who has noticed increased movement in my pelvic region. I can feel Baby G has dropped. His feet, which used to jut out to the left when looking down at my stomach as he stretched out, now they stretch out farther up into my rib cage indicating he has more vertical room and his head has descended. I have to pee every. 30. minutes. At least!

What triggers labor is still a mystery, but apparently it is the precise combination of hormones from both mom and baby. I have to trust that when Baby G is ready, and even though I might feel ready maybe my body just isn’t quite there yet, that this incredible process will begin. So for now, I just need to keep busy and find a few new projects to keep myself distracted.

Luckily, I have my writing as an outlet. So, for the next few days I’ll talk about my experience with pregnancy, what we’ve found helpful, the birth we have in mind, the resources we’ve engaged, and anything else I can think to offer. That being said, pregnancy and birth is an incredibly personal experience. I’m sharing mine in the hopes others might find the information helpful, but not in any way from the view point that this is the “right” way. It is *a* way, and what has worked for me personally given my background, experiences, and values.

The most important thing to remember, and which I remind myself of constantly, is that I have to listen to my body and my intuition. Take what serves you, leave the rest. This is when it comes to advice from friends and family, from that expert in the book, and even when it comes to your care providers. Certain things are absolutely necessary, others can stand some questioning and may even be avoided if that is what you feel is right for you and your pregnancy.

If I were to impart only one nugget of advice, I recommend finding an experience that makes you feel involved, empowered and informed.

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The Art of the “Follow Through”

As a single lady for about a year now I have had plenty of exposure to the courting culture of twenty-somethings. Frankly, it’s awful. It seems that as women grow more accomplished in previously male-dominated spheres (i.e. business and athletics) we are undermining the confidence of the opposite sex.

Gents, let me give you a hint — asking a woman out and getting a ‘yes’ is only half the battle. You must follow through.

What do I mean by follow through? I mean pick a place, a time, a day of the week; and preferrably in tandem with the date request — not a week later. There are instances where I have agreed to dates when perhaps the askee was not necessarily someone I had considered before, but their inability to commit to a time or place completely negated my initial appreciation of their ability to take risk a and face possible rejection. Essentially, they lost my interest almost as quickly as it was won.

When we are talking first date, don’t obsess about whether she’ll like your choice of venue — as it is really irrelevant. If she’s said yes, it is because she wants to get to know you better. Unless, she just wants a free meal, in which case she’s a B and it really doesn’t matter if she likes the place, does it?

We may be ulta-competitive when it comes to work or marathons, but when it comes to dating — most girls relish the chance to let the guy lead.

If you find that after getting a girl to agree to let you take her out she’s suddenly no longer responsive, chances are you need to work on your follow through.

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